![]() Don't remove obstacles in their daily life. Use the obstacles to promote problem- solving: Ex. woodworking, gardening, fishing, sewing, working with clay, ceramic painting, making a mosaic, coloring by number/color, building blanket forts, making handmade greeting cards, and scrapbooking.Ħ.Teach kids traditional activities that require putting a continuous effort to achieve results: Chores such as making a bed, setting a dinner table, putting dirty clothes in the hamper, watering plants, loading /unloading dishwasher, feeding a pet, sorting/folding laundry, and even washing cars.ĥ.Life skills such as self-feeding, self-dressing, brushing teeth.Involve kids from early on in self-care skills and daily chores to teach responsibility and doing what’s needed: ![]() Solutions. Below is a list of recommendations that have helped hundreds of my clients improve their work ethic skills:Ĥ. With the best of intentions in mind, we are leaving our kids unprepared for real life. By doing so, we deprive them of developing the work ethic which is an essential building block for life's success. Bubble wrapping hinders the development of responsibility, independence, problem-solving, perseveration, and resilience. Unfortunately, we make them happy at the moment, but miserable in the long term. Outcomes: When bubble wrapping our kids, we have the best intentions in mind to make them happy. Life is filled with tedious work, delayed gratification, challenges, and responsibilities. It is mostly about doing what is needed to get what is wanted. “Magic” mostly happens when we push ourselves outside of our comfort zone, work hard through challenges and boredom. We are raising them for an artificial reality, not for the real world. Life is not a picnic. There is no magic wand, no golden plate, no endless fun. We all know that life is tough. Reality: Why are we misleading our children? We are telling our kids a fairy tale. We have made them think that in life “everyone wins a trophy” regardless of his effort and “nothing is your fault.” We have made our kids believe that life is all about 'me' and about doing what “I want and whenever I want it”. Likewise, we have taught them that life is free of responsibilities and challenges as everything falls on their golden plate without lifting a finger. In their minds, we have created an illusion that life is a picnic filled with immediate gratification and endless fun. As parents, we bubble-wrap our kids and keep them in their comfort zone. Illusion: Many factors in modern parenting contribute to the crisis in kids' work ethics. The bad news is that kids' work ethic is in a crisis and we, parents, have a lot to do with it. The good news is that with proper training you can improve your child’s work ethic. Work ethic is similar to a muscle. It can be strengthened with proper training or weakened with misuse. These are the kids I am referring to in this blog. ![]() However, I am most concerned with the sharp increase of these issues amongst typically developing children. Work ethic challenges are often associated with neurological conditions. Similar issues are being shared by many parents and are also evident in every classroom. The report from his teachers shows that he does not put effort into his work or use problem-solving skills.” When he starts an activity, he constantly asks for help, gets bored or frustrated, and gives up quickly. Even getting dressed and going outside is becoming a challenge. He does not show any interest in doing chores, puzzles, reading, drawing, or writing. He avoids any activities that he perceives to be tedious or challenging. “My son only wants to do whatever he wants. While work ethic is proven to be one of the key factors for success in life the struggle with children work ethic is one of the most common concerns voiced by parents, teachers, and professionals.īelow are concerns expressed by a mother of a 6-year-old boy, who came to get parenting advice from me last week: ![]()
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